How to Choose a Good Therapist
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Finding a good therapist can be like finding a good plumber, accountant, or dentist.  It can feel like looking for a needle in a haystack, but once you do find a good one you are glad that you took the steps to make it happen.  For most people this search can feel intimidating and confusing leading them to put off counseling longer than needed.

Here are some things that I would suggest in finding the
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House Rules: Guidelines on Healthy Disagreements
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Imagine playing a game with someone without shared rules.   How about two people playing chess, with one following the rules of croquet and the other playing by rules of boxing.  As you can imagine, it is going to create some serious problems between them, and the game will likely end in disaster.  Spoken and unspoken rules are a fundamental requirement for any couple to have healthy disagreements.  When people do not follow a shared set of rules they set themselves up for failure from the start.  When couples have disagreements without shared guidelines, they end up spending so much time arguing about arguing, creating damage...
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Insights and Wisdom for Couples
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Below are insights and wisdom I have collected over years of working with couples and reading literature on having happy successful relationships.  It is work in progress and periodically updated.  Feel free to email me and share anything you would like to add to it.  
Take your time as you go over them.  Stop and discuss thoughts and feelings about each one.  This is also a "we" not "you" list

Paying on the front-end costs much less than paying on the back-end.  I commonly hear people say we don’t have the
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MESSY and FUSSY Questionnaires
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These are questionnaires that I created to go along with my upcoming blog article “Why Men Messy and Women are Fussy.”  The questionnaires are below.

Messy stands for Male Emotional Sensitivity Syndrome and Fussy stands for Female Ultra-emotional Sensitive Syndrome.  The blog addresses, from an evolutionary/bio-neurological perspective, why relationship communication commonly breaks down due...

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Book List
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My Favorite Books
The Unethered Soul, Michael Singer
Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself, Joe Dispenza (and most anything else by him – check out his youtube videos)
The Tao of Pooh, Benjamin Hoff
Tuesdays with Morrie, Mitch Albom
Everything I Needed to Know I Learned in Kindergarten, Robert Fulghum

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